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She said she wanted to switch careers. I said, "Answer one question first."

她说想转行，我说：“你先回答我一个问题。

一位设计师跟我说：“我不知道该不该转行。客户越来越难搞，前面困难重重，我该怎么选？”

我没有给她答案。

在一个小时的对话里，我注意到她说话时有一个模式：先鼓励自己，然后马上说“但是……”，接着是一连串的困惑和困难。

我问她：“你说‘但是’的时候，你脑子里在想什么？”

她沉默了很久。

然后说：“……我想找借口逃跑。”

就这一句话。她没有转行。她开始做一件事：每次想说“但是”的时候，先停下来，问自己 - “我是在分析问题，还是在找借口？”

慢慢地，她的步伐变了。不再内卷，不再内耗。她说：“原来困住我的不是客户，是我自己说话的方式。”

如果你也一边想向前走，一边在给自己找借口 ，与我联系。一起找到问题的根。你的时间与精力，应该花在高回报的目标上。

(案例已脱敏，经本人同意分享)

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徐敏聪
成果教练 ｜为赢而练
我帮创始人及CEO先赢，再长。

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A designer told me, "I don't know if I should change careers. Clients are getting harder to deal with, and there are so many obstacles ahead. How do I choose?"

I didn't give her the answer.

During our hour-long conversation, I noticed a pattern in the way she spoke: she would encourage herself, but then immediately say "but…" followed by a string of confusion and difficulties.

I asked her, "When you say 'but,' what's going through your mind?"

She was silent for a long time.

Then she said, "…I'm looking for an excuse to run away."

That was it. She didn't change careers. She started doing one thing: every time she wanted to say "but," she paused and asked herself, "Am I analyzing the problem, or am I making an excuse?"

Slowly, her pace shifted. No more grinding. No more internal friction. She said, "Turns out what was trapping me wasn't my clients, it was the way I talk to myself."

If you also want to move forward, but keep making excuses for yourself, reach out. Let's find the root together. Your time and energy should be spent on goals that truly pay off.

(Case anonymized with client’s consent)

 

David Tsui

Result Coach | Coached To WIN

Helping founders and CEOs WIN, then GROW