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The Secretary General came in full of doubt. Twenty mins later, we ended the conversation.
秘书长带着质疑来，20分钟后后，我们结束了对话。
朋友介绍。说协会秘书长有困惑，想聊聊。
坐下来，他挂着一种让我不安的笑 - 嘴在咧，眼神是空的。
“徐教练，你先告诉我，我们这个行业需要做什么才能改进？”顿了顿，“不过，我要先看你能不能打动我。”
“教练不是答题，”我说，“不给建议，也不负责打动谁。你确定要继续吗？”
他愣了一下。又笑了。
然后开始讲。行业大咖认识多少，那些人有多厉害，几辆车、几家餐厅、请他吃过什么……语气里全是引以为傲的关系。讲了快十五分钟，全是“别人”。
他自己的事，一句没提。
“你说了这么多别人的事，”我说，“那你呢？你自己的‘事’是什么？”
笑容第一次没了。他又愣了一下，含含糊糊：“你……先把你的理据告诉我，我再跟你说。”
我合上本子。
“不用了。今天到这里。”
如果你也在‘等别人先证明’里等了很久 - 私信我‘解锁’。与我联系。一起找到问题的根。你的时间与精力，应该花在高回报的目标上。
(案例已脱敏，经本人同意分享)
徐敏聪
成果教练 ｜为赢而练
我帮创始人及CEO先赢，再长。
A friend introduced us, saying he was confused and wanted to talk. As soon as he sat down, he wore a smile that made me uneasy - his mouth was smiling, but his eyes were empty.
“Coach David, first tell me, what does our industry need to do to improve?” After a pause, he added, “But I need to see if you can impress me first.”
“Coaching isn’t about answering questions,” I said. “I don’t give advice, and I’m not here to impress anyone. Are you sure you want to continue?”
He paused for a moment, then smiled again.
He started talking - about how many industry big shots he knew, how impressive they were, what cars they drove, which restaurants they owned, and how they had treated him to meals… For nearly fifteen minutes, everything was about “other people.” He didn’t mention a single thing about himself.
“You’ve talked so much about other people,” I said. “What about you? What is your ‘thing’?”
For the first time, his smile disappeared. He paused again, then said vaguely, “You… first tell me your reasoning, then I’ll tell you.”
I closed my notebook.
“No need. Let’s stop here for today.”
If you’ve been waiting a long time in the mode of “waiting for others to prove themselves first,” DM me the word “Unlock”. Let’s connect and find the root of the problem together. Your time and energy deserve to be spent on high-return goals.
(Case desensitized and shared with the client’s consent)
David Tsui
Result Coach | Coached To WIN
Helping founders and CEOs WIN, then GROW
