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He said, "Maybe I'm not confident enough." I said, "Take out the 'maybe' and reverse the sentence." He froze for a minute, then laughed.
他说“可能是我不够自信”，我说“把‘可能’拿走，倒过来说”。他愣了一分钟，然后笑了。
课堂上，我邀请一位设计公司老板做现场教练对话演练。
他神色犹豫，说：“我的甲方一直对我的能力带着怀疑……可能是我的表达不好，可能是我不够自信，可能是我……”
我打断他：“来，把刚才的话重组一下。把‘可能’拿走，把句子倒过来说。”
他愣住了。想了一下，重新开口：
“我的客户一直对我的能力肯定。是我的表达能力好。是我有足够的自信。是我……”
说到一半，他自己停住了，眼睛亮了。
我问他：“说的时候，感觉怎么样？”
他笑了，是那种从紧张到松开的笑。
然后他说了一句很重的话：“教练，今天你改变了我的一生。”
那天我们没有讲任何“自信提升”的理论。我们只做了一件事：把他说了十几年的“可能”，从他的嘴里拿掉。
下课后，我们把他的“自我宣言”写下来，贴在办公桌前的墙上。他说：“以前我一开口就先否定自己。现在我要先看见自己。”
如果你也总在开口前先说‘可能’ ，与我联系。一起找到问题的根。你的时间与精力，应该花在高回报的目标上。
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徐敏聪
商业教练 ｜为赢而练
我帮创始人及CEO先赢，再长。
In a workshop, I invited a design company owner to do a live coaching demonstration.
He looked hesitant and said: "My clients have always been doubtful about my ability… maybe my communication isn't good, maybe I'm not confident enough, maybe I'm…"
I interrupted him: "Come on, let's restructure what you just said. Take out the 'maybe,' and reverse the sentence."
He froze. He thought for a moment, then started again:
"My clients have always affirmed my ability. It's because my communication is good. It's because I have enough confidence. It's because I…"
Halfway through, he stopped himself. His eyes lit up.
I asked him, "How did it feel when you said that?"
He smiled, the kind of smile that comes from tension releasing.
Then he said something heavy: "Coach, today you changed my life."
That day, we didn't talk about any "confidence-building" theories. We did one thing only: we took the "maybe" he'd been saying for over a decade out of his mouth.
After class, we wrote down his "self-declaration" and taped it to the wall in front of his desk. He said, "Before, the moment I opened my mouth, I'd put myself down first. Now I want to see myself first."
If you also always say "maybe" before you speak, reach out. Let's find the root of the problem together. Your time and energy belong on high-return goals.
(Case study anonymized and shared with consent)
David Tsui
Business Coach | Coached To WIN
Helping founders and CEOs WIN, then GROW
