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She said, “I can’t seem to use my strengths,” and half an hour later, she found her own ceiling.
她说“优势使不出来”，半小时后，自己找到了天花板。
“业务还行，但总觉得优势没使出来。”她摇摇头。
“是什么卡住了你的优势？”
她答得很快：“经济不好、开发商项目少了、城市不理想、设计费被砍……只能求生存。”
“那些都是外面的事，”我说，“你能做什么？”
她愣了。以为刚才就是答案。
十分钟后，她想出了一个可行方案，信心满满。过了一分钟，又缩回去了：“……算了，还是求生存吧。”
我看着她。安静了半分钟。
“你在怕什么？”
她没说话。
接下来半小时，我们没再聊经济、城市、项目。只聊一件事 - 她怕什么。
怕过去那些没成的项目，再演一遍。
“你已经看见自己设的那块天花板了，”我说，“下一步，你怎么选？”
我听到她的深呼吸。这次，她没有缩回去。
如果你也在‘外面条件不好、里面有力使不出’里来回拉扯，与我联系。一起找到问题的根。你的时间与精力，应该花在高回报的目标上。
(案例已脱敏)
徐敏聪
成果教练 ｜为赢而练
我帮创始人及CEO先赢，再长。
“My business is okay, but I always feel like I’m not fully utilizing my strengths,” she said, shaking her head.
“What’s holding your strengths back?” I asked.
She answered quickly: “The economy is bad, developers have fewer projects, the city isn’t ideal, design fees are being cut… I’m just trying to survive.”
“Those are all external factors,” I said. “What can you do?”
She was stunned. She thought that was already the answer.
Ten minutes later, she came up with a feasible plan and looked full of confidence. Then, just a minute after that, she retreated again: “…Forget it, I’ll just focus on surviving.”
I looked at her quietly for half a minute.
“What are you really afraid of?”
She didn’t speak.
For the next thirty minutes, we didn’t talk about the economy, the city, or projects. We only talked about one thing - what she was afraid of.
She was afraid of repeating the failure of past projects.
“You’ve just seen the ceiling you set for yourself,” I said. “Now, what do you choose?”
I heard her take a deep breath. This time, she didn’t retreat.
If you also feel stuck in the loop of “external conditions are bad, but I can’t seem to unleash my potential,” feel free to reach out. Let’s find the root of the issue together. Your time and energy deserve to be spent on high-return goals.
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David Tsui
Result Coach | Coached To WIN
Helping founders and CEOs WIN, then GROW
