I Want to Win. Don‘t You? 我要赢，你不想吗？
- David Tsui
- May 21
- 3 min read
Is Winning Really Arrogance？
赢，真的是傲慢吗？
In Chinese culture, “winning” is a subtle word.
We want it in our hearts, but we rarely say it out loud. Because saying it somehow feels like “arrogance.”
But let me ask you: Is winning really arrogance？
Denis Waitley once said: “Losers let it happen. Winners make it happen.”
Winning is not about stepping on others. It’s about bringing out the best version of yourself.
You win once. You remember that feeling. Not the trophy. Not the money. That moment when you say to yourself: “I did it.”
Muscles have muscle memory. The exhilaration of winning also creates mental muscle memory.
Once you‘ve won, you know how to win again. Once you’ve helped someone else win, the trust between you becomes unbreakable.
Winning is not the finish line. It‘s the starting point for the next race.
Waitley also said: “Winners leave failure where it belongs - as a learning experience.”
Losing is not terrible. What’s terrible is being afraid to even think about winning again.
In my work, I also help developers protect their returns. I help design firms win projects.
I‘m not teaching people to “beat others.” I’m helping both sides build a symbiotic kind of winning - you win, I win.
The design firm wins the project. The developer wins the return. And in the end, the market wins better work.
That‘s not arrogance. That’s mutual respect.
Do you dare to win？
I‘m not asking about your ability. I‘m asking about your heart.
Do you dare to picture yourself winning before the pitch? Do you dare to tell your team: “We’re taking this one”? Do you dare to keep the word “win” in your heart, and then go prepare and fight with everything you‘ve got？
Winning is not a personality trait. It’s a choice.
Denis Waitley said: “You don‘t necessarily get what you want in life. But in the long run, you get what you expect.”
What do you expect？
If you expect to win, let’s start with one conversation.
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I Help Founders & CEOs WIN. Then GROW.
在中国文化里，“赢”是一个微妙的词。
我们心里想要，但嘴上很少说。因为说出来，好像显得“傲慢”。
但我想问你：赢，真的是傲慢吗？
Denis Waitley 说过：“失败者让事情发生，赢家让事情发生。”
赢，不是踩别人一脚。赢，是把你自己最好的那一面，拿出来。
赢一次，你会记住那种感觉。不是奖杯，不是奖金。是那种 - “我做到了” 的瞬间。肌肉有肌肉记忆，胜利带来的那种“成了”的体验，也有心理肌肉记忆。
你赢过一次，你就知道怎么再赢一次。你帮别人赢过一次，你们之间的信任，就再也拆不散了。
赢不是终点，是下一站的起点。
Waitley 还说过：“赢家把失败留在它该在的地方 - 作为学习经验。”
输，不可怕。可怕的是输了以后，不敢再想“赢”。
在我的工作里，我帮设计公司赢项目，也帮开发商保回报。我不是在教人“打败别人”。我是在帮双方建立一种“共生”的赢 - 你赢，我也赢。乙方赢下项目，甲方赢下回报。最后，市场赢下更好的作品。
这不是傲慢。这是对彼此的尊重。
你敢赢吗？
不是问你的能力。是问你的心。
你敢不敢在汇报前，想象自己已经赢了？你敢不敢在团队面前说：“这一场，我们要拿下”？你敢不敢把“赢”字放在心里，然后大大方方地去准备、去拼？
赢，不是一种性格。是一种选择。
Denis Waitley 说：“你最终得到的，往往不是你想要的，而是你期待的。”
你期待什么？
如果你期待赢，那我们从一次对话开始。
徐敏聪
成果教练 ｜为赢而练
我帮创始人及CEO先赢，再长。
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